A man tried to argue with me today. Now, I'm a rational person. If approached correctly I'll listen to what anybody has to say and see every possible point of view. But if you come to me with a stink tone and an attitude, I just won't care. This is where Mr. Arsehole made his first mistake. He approached me wrong with an arsey attitude. The kind of attitude that leads to situations escalating, and somebody getting a black eye and losing a tooth.
He was going on about his rubbish and I just wasn't caring, which I know probably pissed him off even more. He kept flapping his gums with his stink tone which I did not care for - so I realized I had to regulate. I had to tell a man several times to watch his tone and stop being arsey with me, because I don't care for it. The look on his face said it all: he realized himself his tone was wrong, given HE was the one who started what didn't need to be an arguement at all. After all of 20 seconds, he tone switched back to arsey, so I just told him to "Shut up!". I didn't shout it, didn't say it aggressively. I just kissed my teeth and said "Arrrghhh...Shut up!" The argument was done at this point.
If you want to get through to somebody, you need to check not what you say, but how you say it. If he came to me with a correct tone and was rational, I'd have had no reason to bring rudeness to the table. But he was just being a complete arsehole. So I had to regulate him. I hope he don't make the mistake again. Because we live in a time where if you argue with the wrong person, you can end up getting a punch in the face, or even worse: getting stabbed or shot. He didn't know me from Adam, so he shouldn't have stepped to me how he did.
It was a nice day, I was cool, so it didn't piss me off in any way. Especially knowing I got the last words. Those words being an instruction to shut up.
He was going on about his rubbish and I just wasn't caring, which I know probably pissed him off even more. He kept flapping his gums with his stink tone which I did not care for - so I realized I had to regulate. I had to tell a man several times to watch his tone and stop being arsey with me, because I don't care for it. The look on his face said it all: he realized himself his tone was wrong, given HE was the one who started what didn't need to be an arguement at all. After all of 20 seconds, he tone switched back to arsey, so I just told him to "Shut up!". I didn't shout it, didn't say it aggressively. I just kissed my teeth and said "Arrrghhh...Shut up!" The argument was done at this point.
If you want to get through to somebody, you need to check not what you say, but how you say it. If he came to me with a correct tone and was rational, I'd have had no reason to bring rudeness to the table. But he was just being a complete arsehole. So I had to regulate him. I hope he don't make the mistake again. Because we live in a time where if you argue with the wrong person, you can end up getting a punch in the face, or even worse: getting stabbed or shot. He didn't know me from Adam, so he shouldn't have stepped to me how he did.
It was a nice day, I was cool, so it didn't piss me off in any way. Especially knowing I got the last words. Those words being an instruction to shut up.
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